So here we are again, another Valentine’s Day to celebrate just about a week away and you may be just scratching your head wondering…… “We’ve been down this road before; you know, did the date thing, went out to dinner, ate our favorite meal, indulged in delicious chocolate desserts and even finished the night watching a movie together. One year we decided to change things around a little and took a walk on the beach together. Another year we even decided to go on a cruise, our first of many to see a new place, you know Mexico and the Caribbean. Oh, and who can forget one year we went to see the Eiffel Tower in Paris, so we’ve been there and done that, traveled a little here and a little there. So what are we going to do this time around? More dinners? More traveling around? Ugh, I just don’t feel like going through the motions anymore. What’s the point of it all anyway when we just end up feeling so tired at the end of the night after spending hundreds of dollars on ourselves to boot? Isn’t there a better way to celebrate Valentine’s Day without the fuss and frenzy spending?” If this is you then continue reading about three tips on fresh ideas to celebrate Valentine’s day this year to keep the fire alive in your beloved marriage.
TIP # 1
Ask your spouse what their favorite pass-time to spend with you would be. It could sound something like this, “Honey, I am just so excited to celebrate Valentine’s Day with you this year. I know we’ve enjoyed so many outside experiences in the last years, but this year I want to know what you would enjoy to do with me more than anything else. I just want to celebrate loving you without fussing, rushing around, or spending more money.” You might be amazed at what your honey bear asks for, but as long as you can make it a special time together isn’t that what really counts more than any fancy plans of the past? Studies show that the happiest marriages aren’t the ones that spend the most money on each other; rather they are marriages that listen to one another’s desires and give of themselves, time, service or help. Perhaps your wife or husband has always had a desire to build a dollhouse for your granddaughter, or work on a project together. If that’s what would bring joy to their heart, wouldn’t that be worth doing?
TIP #2
Do you know of a young married couple, related to you or not, that would benefit from spending and sharing a meal with you and your spouse? Maybe they could use some role modeling or advice on how to have a good marriage and this might be your opportunity for you to help. Many young marriages benefit from married couples who have been together for a long time. They can learn of the hardships and conflicts and how to get through them as well as the happiest of times and how to celebrate them. Couples often need help from other couples whether their marriage is in trouble, or plainly just need some company from an experienced and wise couple. Consider with your spouse this year to invite a young couple over for Valentine’s Day. Cook them a warm homemade meal and dessert, then spend the rest of the evening sharing your ups and downs and how you survived and thrived from them, but remember to allow the younger couple to freely share their fears and hurts they’ve experienced so that you can help give the best advice. It is true that when we give help to others in need, we become happier, because we can trust that we can be used to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
TIP #3
Have you ever written your spouse a Love Letter? You know, the kind that is on real stationary paper and hand written with your words on it, not store-bought with someone else’s words? If you’ve never done this before, consider it now, because whether you’re a wife or husband, words soothe the soul, your words that is. It is well known that what you say to your spouse will either positively or negatively affect them, so watch what you say before you say it, because it will impact them. When you think of a Love Letter do you think about sweet, heartfelt words that give you goosebumps all around? Does it make you just want to melt and hug your husband or wife when he shares just how much he loves you? That is what a Love Letter ought to do. Remember, words soothe the soul and bring joy to the heaviest of hearts. Take the time this Valentine’s day to write a Love Letter to your spouse using only positive and encouraging words. You may just have to close your eyes and take a deep breath to clear your mind. Then, let your heart open up to smothering your spouse with words that share your heart’s best intentions in mind to edify him or her with all your heart.
Hope that you have enjoyed this blog. If you can relate to the content to this article and would like to ask for more help on how to achieve keeping the fire alive in your marriage, leave a comment below or contact us at DearDr.com. We would love to hear from you and hear how you are doing with achieving success so far in your marriage especially on Valentine’s Day. Together we can do great things, have fun with it, and end the day with greater hope and joy prepared to do even greater things for the future.
